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Will you politely refuse a gift simply because you don’t want to give something back in return?   


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Marina
@M. · Updated 05 Aug. 2021


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Ryan M 
@RyanM · Posted 06 Aug. 2021

It depends on the occasion and the gift. If it's just a gift they got you out of nowhere, then I don't think you are required to gift them back. Just be thankful for the gift. But, you are free to get them a gift later if you want to. 

If it's an anniversary, then both sides should do a gift. But others may not be into gifts or even give gifts. 

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Marina
@M. · Posted 16 Aug. 2021

If a person gives me a gift out of nowhere, I'm at a loss as to what to do.

I feel like there's no end to it if I return the gift and get another gift from the other person...

Thank you.

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Osheen Sharma
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 06 Aug. 2021

I agree with Ryan. If it is an occasion where people might be expected to get you gifts, you could have a no-gift policy. If someone randomly gives you a gift, but you don't want one from them, you can definitely refuse it. The best thing when giving a gift is to ask first so that the receiver isn't overwhelmed or uncomfortable.

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Marina
@M. · Posted 16 Aug. 2021

I see...

Maybe I'll just not take it first and tell them I can't return them back first.

Many Japanese people have a hard time saying no because they can't clearly...Lol

Thank you.

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Debbie Katz  Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 07 Aug. 2021

I always felt that gift-giving, no matter the occasion, should be a selfless act from one person to another. Expecting to receive a gift back makes it an obligation, not a gift. That being said, I don't know many people who would give someone a gift and get mad if they didn't get one back unless it was something that was agreed upon such as anniversaries, birthdays, for Christmas.. Just a few examples. Even then, if you don't have the money to buy someone a gift then just being honest goes a long way!

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Marina
@M. · Posted 16 Aug. 2021

I agree.

I feel that a gift with high expectations is no longer a gift, but a barter.

It's good to be honest about why.

Thank you.

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Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 09 Aug. 2021

Well, i am always very sensitive when taking gifts. If it is given to me purposefully in order to get something else in return from me, i will not accept it. Because that will be a bribe. I'd rather the person just asks me for the favor s/he wants and not attach a gift to it. 


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Marina
@M. · Posted 16 Aug. 2021

I think so.

If it's a gift to serve a purpose, I don't want to accept it either.

But it's hard for me to say no, even softly…


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