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When is a good time to say, ``I love you``   

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Avyanna Dream Site Admin
@admin · Posted 28 May. 2021

Tons of people, mostly women said that saying, ``I love you`` sooner is a huge, huge deal breaker for them.  Which begs the question, when is the right time to say it? How often should people say it? Should there be a timetable to guide and assist them?

I honestly don’t see anything wrong with saying it, especially if you felt and meant it. I think what should be consider a huge deal breaker is masking how you feel towards your partner. You don’t have to feel pressured or obliged to say it back if you don’t feel the say way or aren’t there yet. Methinks people who use the expression genuinely from within should be appreciated and not label as fake or desperate. What do you guys think?



Godwin Oladele I write content
@Writelord · Posted 28 May. 2021

To be honest, men and women view love differently. Even so, the meaning of the word is misplaced in the heat of the moment.

Women are more vocal with words. They say 'I love you' when a man makes them feel special. In most cases, when the man provides. It's a fact that they often say it first in the early stages of a relationship, mainly because the man is still chasing them.

A man, on the other hand, says 'I love you' usually when a woman makes him feel good. Men are sexual creatures; during sexual interaction is usually when our emotions pour out.

So where does this put love in general.

A wise man once said, love goes beyond words, it's an action. Many of the longest lasting relationships operate on mutual understanding and loyalty. 

Because that's what true love is; showing that you care

So for anyone who finds themselves  in a relationship where the words 'I love you' is being used repeatedly, chances are you and your partner are not very honest with each other.

Love has been sold to us as a Disney fantasy. It's a feeling we never truly attain, yet continue to chase.

What we really need in a relationship is loyalty. A loyal person shows that they love you, in the manner they speak, do and act on behalf of their partners.

Look for loyalty my friends, love is a vague concept.


Osheen Sharma
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 08 Jun. 2021

I'm sure there is a better more detailed way to answer this question but I believe the most simple answer is the truest. You should say 'I love you' when you actually feel it.

I do not think that there is ever a perfect time to express this emotion for the first time. I say this because no matter how well you pick out the time and no matter how much or how little you wait, ultimately you are being incredibly vulnerable. There is always the chance of getting hurt, even if you do everything right and tick all the boxes. Since there are no guarantees in love anyhow, is it not better to just say it when you feel it rather than waiting for the perfect time? I'd rather put my heart out and face rejection than hold on to my feelings too long. 


Ryan M
@RyanM · Posted 28 May. 2021

I think that comes down to your feelings. I think we know when we're in love. And letting your significant other know this is the step in the right direction. Show them you care. If they say no, then you know that person likely wasn't the one for you. 

I feel that once you feel that sense of love, you're in love. But, that doesn't always mean that the person you love, also loves you. 

Anyway, I feel that it just takes time. Don't say "I Love You" early in the relationship, because that can kill it outright. 


Debbie Katz Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 28 May. 2021

Well, I think everyone is a bit different about this. This is not a men vs women thing but an individual thing. I have seen men say it first and women put off by it just as much as women saying it first and men being put off by it. For me, I said it after a few weeks and this was prior to even meeting my husband in person (he is from another country). I felt the desire to tell him so I did. He stopped and was in shocked and asked me to say it again. His face lit up and he was so happy that he couldn't stop smiling and he said it back. I was the first woman outside of his mother he told he loved. He has no issue saying it. We had been friends online for a year prior so I think it came easier for both of us. We knew we wanted to marry each other within a few weeks of that. 

My point is that there is no good or bad time to say it, it is all a matter of how you feel, how committed you are, and how much you have grown together with the other person. Lusting someone is different than loving them though and I think that often gets confused.


Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 28 May. 2021

"I love you" are just three words but with a very deep meaning. They should not be said from the surface. It should come from deep inside the heart. Therefore, they should only be said when you mean it. When your body and soul are resonating with the same meaning. When you trust the person to which it is meant for with your life. That is only when it can be said. 

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