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What do you do when you feel like giving up?   

#giving up what i do


Avyanna Dream  Site Admin
@admin · Updated 06 Jun. 2021


Osheen Sharma
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 06 Jun. 2021

We are often told that giving up isn't an option and that one must always persevere. However, we often find ourselves in situations where it becomes unbearable to continue in the same way unless something changes. I feel like giving up is a very conditional thing. It is never okay to give up on life because life is a gift. We may not have asked for it consciously, but it is a privilege to live and thrive. Giving up on tasks, however, is a whole other ballgame. I used to push through despite wanting to give up when I was younger, making me miserable. Now that I am older, I feel like a situation like this warrants introspection. Why do you want to give up? Is the task at hand worth the emotional and mental strain you are enduring because of it? Do you want to give up because you are unhappy in your role, or do you want to give up because you do not want to work hard?

I have often found that my reason for wanting to give up in any situation used to be a lack of confidence in my own ability. I wasn't lazy, but I was demotivated, which led to wanting to give up on tasks I would have otherwise enjoyed and completed. The realization has made me change my ways and allowed me to motivate myself, and has lead to a consequent decrease in the number of times I have wanted to quit a task mid-way. Therefore I believe it is of the utmost importance to introspect in situations like this; to find the root of the problem and solve it for the long run. 

You don't always get a solution like this, though. You may be stuck in a job you do not like, a situation that is not conducive to your growth, or a multitude of similar situations. What then? Should you still go on? My answer to that is, No. To get somewhere, you need to leave from somewhere else. Nothing changes if you don't change. So if you really are sure that you want to move on from a situation like this, make a plan and implement it, and you will thank yourself for it in the long run.


Ryan M
@RyanM · Posted 06 Jun. 2021

Giving up on tasks, or on life? Because the first thing I thought of when reading the question, was quitting on life itself. Let's say that's what it is about. If you ever feel that you want to end things, please consider your family, friends, or someone else who may care about you. Because committing suicide is not only going to hurt family & friends, but the person who finds you will also be traumatized. Life is tough, sometimes more for some. But ending your own life, is not the way to go. If you ever feel like your life is not worth it, or you're considering suicide, please call someone, call a suicide support line even. Just find someone to talk to and just talk. Let the pain out that way. See a therapist as well. Life is short, find what makes you happy, and stick with it for as long as you can. If it's about giving up on a task, sometimes that's okay. We all fail, it's a part of life, it's how we learn from our mistakes and better ourselves. We all give up from time to time, either it be a school assignment, a work project, or something else. I think Osheen above is right when he mentions that it's our lack of confidence that is doing it. I believe that to be true, because I have social anxiety and it is exactly that way for me. I lack confidence because I constantly worry about what others may be thinking of me. When in reality, it's a waste of time to worry about such things. But, confidence is what is key here when it comes to giving up on tasks. 

But it's not okay to give up on life. Giving up on that job you don't like is one thing, but there's way more great to life out there that I'd say keep looking for what makes you happy. Don't let the people in the world, dictate what they think you should do. Find a hobby you want to do, find a job that interests you. Walk around the country, swim in the ocean, etc. Do something you want to actually do. 

Life is not easy, and we didn't really ask for it either. But, that's why life is so great. You have this limited time to make something, do something, or to even just live. 


Debbie Katz Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 06 Jun. 2021

This depends on the context really. You can feel like giving up on a hobby, a career, a goal, a relationship or just generally in life.

For hobbies, I think it takes time for most people to learn new crafts and skills so it is easy to feel like giving up when you don't see any progress being made. For me, if I feel stuck or feel like I am not getting anywhere, I just take a break from it for a bit and come back when I feel more refreshed and try again when I am in a better headspace.

For careers, I have never been in a position where I wanted to give up on one but if I had been, I see nothing wrong with wanting change. I feel like all too often, people are stuck in jobs and careers they hate and there is no shame in changing your career. Even later in life. 

When it comes to goals, I often give up only to start again a few days or weeks later depending on the goal. I think we have all had goals with things that we didn't reach and have given up on them to just return later. 

Relationships... You just have to know when it is time to end them and move on. The feeling of giving up is a clear sign you are not happy in the relationship and it seems to be the right thing to do to end things for both you and your partner. 

Giving up on life is a big one. I think this is often a feeling people have when they are depressed or deeply sad about something. I find in this case it is best to find someone to talk to be it a friend, someone you can trust online, or a professional. Life is always going to have moments where things get rough but it is always darkest before the dawn. 


Godwin Oladele I write content
@Writelord · Updated 07 Jun. 2021

It's okay to give up on things that are not working your way.

But then again, if someone else or certain people have already achieved what you're currently chasing, you need to reevaluate your approach.

Perhaps you're doing it the wrong way. Maybe it's not the right thing for you.

Either way, self-reflection removes all doubt. 

At the end of the day, people become successful because they remove emotions when making decisions. Thinking logically requires constant self-reflection. This is something you have to master to move forward in life.

If you have to give up on that dream of yours, feel free. At the end of the day, you and only you get to live with that decision.

Make sure it's the right one


Nidhi Arora
@nidh2382 · Posted 08 Jun. 2021

I think of my life’s inspiration, my daughter. There are many times when I feel I am done and can’t go further, but then I sit alone in a room with my inner self. I think about why I am after a specific goal. Is it only for my happiness or someone else who will not like to see me defeated? I contemplate how I would feel if I lost without giving my 100%. I tell myself, perhaps I am very close to victory, and I am giving up.

All through my life, I have been motivating myself with a quote “People who try never fail, and even if they do, they don’t regret because they tried their best.” And I imagine the results of success glorifying myself with the feeling of achievement.

That’s it! After assessing triumphs, failures and imagining the happiness of my life’s inspiration, I feel charged up, motivated again, and conquer!


Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 08 Jun. 2021

Well, I consider giving up as some of the things that are totally under my control. I am the one who can choose to either give up or soldier on the hardship or the situation am facing. How I do this, is by deeply analyzing the situation am facing. If the circumstances are under my control, i will do all that is within my might to handle the situation. But if it is external and beyond my control, I usually choose to ignore and not let it interfere with my mood. 

Also, when you feel like giving, it means you don't believe what you are doing. Either you are not passionate about it, or you are just doing it for the sake of passing time. I always choose to do what i have passion for, that way, you will never get bored or give up in doing it. Life is full of ups and downs. You should not give up just because of a few downs. Push on, change your strategy and tacts and continue working on it. 

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