@pritika98 · Updated 19 Nov. 2021
Not only in the context of a relationship but a bond between friends as well. How much time does it take? What does one need to do to get themselves back to a balanced state?
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@bomb · Updated 23 Nov. 2021
Getting over someone you loved is not an easy thing. It comes with a lot of emotional baggage that you should deal with. It requires lots of intentional efforts to forget the past. One way of doing it is to replace the memories or the person with some hobby or activity that you love doing. For me, playing chess and reading lots of books have been a good way to get rid of thoughts or people I would love to forget.
When you immerse yourself in something that you love, it will slowly replace all the things that you would love to eliminate from your subconscious. All you need to do is to ensure that the activity that you engage in is engaging and consuming enough so that you will not have time to reflect on the good old days.
@pritika98 · Posted 24 Nov. 2021
I love how you've advised on something I can actually do. Yes, it takes time and it's a tedious emotional process. In some ways, your response is relieving because there is something one can do about it. Thank you so much for sharing your answer. Will definitely follow up on that!
@Willow · Posted 19 Nov. 2021
Are you talking about ending the relationship or forgetting someone?I think the only way to end the relationship is don't makeup excuses for what you're feeling, I know it's hard to describe but don't waste the time. Take her to someplace private or preferably place and tell her "I don't want to waste our time but I think it's over between us. I am sorry to hurt you like this but this relationship won't go last from now. I don't want to be in this relationship anymore"
@pritika98 · Posted 19 Nov. 2021
I'm talking about the process after a bond one cherishes is gone. It can be a relationship between lovers or just friends. I guess I'm talking about how one needs to start taking steps towards themselves after they have been left behind. Thank you for your answer though! It adds more clarity to what I asked for!^_^
@RyanM · Posted 20 Nov. 2021
It's really not as cut and dry as you'd think. When you are trying to get over someone, it's easier said than done. Because either way you put it, there was probably some kind of love involved, so no matter what, it will be tough to move on. Some people won't want to move on, and some will move on faster than others.
Sometimes you just never get over them. You will always have love for your previous partners, I know I do. All you can really do, is hope for the best and maybe one day to find the next best one in your life. :)
@pritika98 · Posted 20 Nov. 2021
I agree. Getting over someone is not as easy it's said to be. There's a whole lot of pain and hurt to process and deal with. Thank you for your answer! I'll keep the things you've mentioned in mind.
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 20 Nov. 2021
The start for me has to be cutting off contact. I don't think I could get over someone I was still talking to or seeing every day. If the relationship is over, then the supporting dynamic needs to go too, so that I don't slip back into my pattern of comfort with them. I have always cut off contact with people I am trying to get over, this applies to friendships and relationships. Once you do that, it is a matter of time and patience. The less you force yourself to move on, the faster it will happen.
@pritika98 · Posted 21 Nov. 2021
Time and patience, yes. Will definitely keep that in mind. Thank you for answering!