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What are best ways to handle a chronic complainer ?   


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Marina
@M. · Posted 16 Feb. 2022

What are best ways to handle a chronic complainer ? 


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Osheen Sharma
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 16 Feb. 2022

it is always a good idea to listen to and understand people when they try to air their grievances to you. A listening ear and kind response can go a long way in reassuring people. There are individuals prone to chronic complaining and it can get a bit tiresome but it is better to say nothing than to be mean. You never know why a person is behaving the way they are so it's best to ignore and avoid them/their complaints. However, when doing this, you have to be prepared for whatever reaction you get. If it is someone close to you they may feel hurt and push back and you may need to have a conversation about both of your needs in the relationship. If it is someone you're not particularly close to, you can just avoid them and move on without worrying about consequence. 


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Debbie Katz Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 22 Feb. 2022

Let them have the stage. Let them talk until they realize you are not giving any input and they will find someone else to complain to. You don't have to be mean about it. Alternatively, you can say you are trying to stay in a positive headspace so you can't allow for this amount of negativity in your life. Tell them they need to cut back on it when socializing with you.


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Pritika Thakur
@pritika98 · Posted 28 Feb. 2022

I try to distract them with things they are interested in or passionate about other than their usual complaining. Unless this person is someone whom I only meet once in awhile and I'm not close to, then empathising with them doesn't work in the long run because we're providing reinforcement for the said behaviour. If you can bring this behaviour of theirs to attention and try to work out things from there, good for the both of you, but otherwise, letting them be and spending time where you know you can actually take it is the road to take. You can also try to direct their complaining to something worth complaining about rather than whining about things that drain your energy or don't bring anything productive to the conversation.


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