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Marina
@M. · Posted 28 Jul. 2021

Were you ever betrayed by a friend? If yes, what did you learn from the experience?


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Mathews James
@Mathews · Posted 28 Jul. 2021

Yes, I was a few years ago by one of my best friends whom I trusted and always hung out with. He slept with my girlfriend(now ex) while I was away on a short business trip. Shocking because he knew  A to Z about our relationship and our plan on getting married in a short while. That was a shattering heartbreaking experience that felt more like a dream than in real life to me. Though I have moved on and happy with my new love, I still find it hard sometimes to forget about it. One thing I learned from the horrible experience is that people we trust the most are more likely to disappoint, betray or worse still stab us in the back or heart when we least expect it.

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Marina
@M. · Posted 29 Jul. 2021

If I were you, I might not be able to forgive.

Because if the betrayal had gone unnoticed, it would have been horrible to think that their relationship would have continued forever, and if you and ex were married and had children, the worst that could have happened is that they would have hurt  children…

Sorry for my poor in english. 


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Marina
@M. · Posted 28 Jul. 2021

Oh, dear…

It must have been tough to be betrayed by two people at the same time.

Have you been able to make up with your best friend...?

Or is there no way to make up for it?

This shocking event is a process for you to be very happy.

Please take care of yourself.

Thank you.

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Mathews James
@Mathews · Posted 28 Jul. 2021

As I said, I have moved on, but I still find it hard to forget about the whole terrible experience. I stopped seeing and communicating with him for a very long time now. I don't think I can trust him like I used to anymore. I actually asked a question on what people would do if they were me on this forum earlier.


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Osheen Sharma
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 28 Jul. 2021

I had two friends I was very close with who I'm not close with anymore. A lot of stuff happened, and things got pretty ugly and heated. At first, I was very upset by it, but years later, I realise that it may have been for the best. Sometimes you just aren't with the right people. This is not to say that these people are inherently bad, just that they aren't the right fit for you and vice-a-versa. The whole issue taught me that I could be myself completely around the right people and that there is nothing wrong with having a small group of very good friends.

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Marina
@M. · Posted 29 Jul. 2021

I've had the same experience.

Over time, there will be friends who don't fit in.

But I don't think that's a sad thing.

I accept it as evidence that I have grown and my values have changed.

I think friends are quality over quantity!

Thank you.


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Ryan M
@RyanM · Posted 28 Jul. 2021

A close friend of mine betrayed me many years ago, by stealing property from me, selling it and then not ever paying me back. He sold personal things as well. We were great friends growing up, and I considered him to be one of my best friends. He was close, but he sadly got into drugs, mostly meth and also experimented with other harmful drugs. Well, this turned him into a severe addict, and he in turn stole from family and friends. I was one of the targets because he knew I had collected action figures and stuff. 

I found out he was stealing stuff, as he was doing it slowly. He'd come over, hang out, and take something expensive of mine, and do his best to cover it up. Of course I wouldn't notice until days or weeks later, and at that point it was too late. 

We tried to do an intervention for him, but that only made it worse, as he stole from me again. I gave him an ultimatum, that if he wanted to hang out with me, he'd have to quit the drugs. Fast forward 5 years later, he's still alive, but barely. I've tried to help him out, but he pushes me away. I hate to see him like this, but we've tried everything. The guy is just stuck in this habit that no one can seem to break him out of. And he's also become so hateful and racist since. 

I hate losing a friend like this, but I can't be friends with someone who will stab you in the back. You can't save everyone from their addictions. 

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Avyanna Dream Site Admin
@admin · Posted 29 Jul. 2021

Sorry you had to go through all that. It must be very hurtful. He needs serious and urgent help. Here is hoping God turns his life around pretty soon.

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Marina
@M. · Posted 29 Jul. 2021

It's so awful.

Did your friend steal and sell to buy drugs?

Drugs are horrible things that can change a person.

You were trying to save your friend. You are very kind-hearted.

But I feel like the friend I had before I started the drug and the one I have since are two different people...

I haven't seen any addicts around me, so it's hard to...

Thanks for letting me know.

Please take care of yourself.


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Marina
@M. · Posted 02 Aug. 2021

It's better not to interfere with trust or friendship in doing business.

I learned a lot.

You're a strong person who doesn't forget to believe even if you've been betrayed a lot.

I wish you even more luck.☺️

Thank you.


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Bomb .  Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Updated 29 Jul. 2021

Yes sure, i have been betrayed, not once, not twice, not thrice! So many times that i have lost count. But the biggest lesson i derived from it was that NEVER EVER do business on "friendly" terms. When it comes to business, put the trust and friendship aside. Just stick to the tenets of running a business. Let the trust you have with each other not fool you! 


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