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Should it be problematic to have an insatiable appetite for sex and a desire for its satisfaction with anonymous partners that I pay to submit sexually? I'm not addicted but ...   


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Updated 06 Apr. 2021


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Joe Waiganjo
@Techy.Rack · Posted 08 Apr. 2021

Sexual desire is on a spectrum, which means there is no 'normal' ... You regularly sacrifice work, social or sleep time for your sexual exploits. Your libido is also commonly referred to as your sex drive — it's your emotional and mental desire for sex. 

Taming your desires is part of practicing self-control and self-awareness. In a moment of weakness, you need to retrain your brain and body; don't give in. 


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Avyanna Dream  Site Admin
@admin · Updated 09 Apr. 2021

One thing I can say is that you should avoid being a victim of your own insecurities. The fact that you have an insatiable appetite for sex (show me a man who doesn’t) doesn’t mean you can’t be a lovely and monogamous person at the same time.

And paying for sex to meet your sexual needs doesn’t make you a pervert by any means especially if they were mutually consensual business transactions with zero harm to nobody. Having said that, decisions are a way of defining ourselves, and there comes a time when you start to question yourself about your life choices, your goals and aspirations, the route you want to take, the legacy you want to leave behind, a time you got the sense to know when enough is enough. We all got the power to say, `this is me today, and `this is who I want to be tomorrow`. How do we know what is right? It is pretty simple. If the choices we make line up so that they sync or support our health, wisdom, and inspire people around us to be better.


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Ryan M
@RyanM · Updated 06 Apr. 2021

I am one to side with legalization of sex work. I may not be into the idea myself, but if you're making women happy who do this type of work, the more power to ya. 

As long as these women aren't forced into anything they don't want to do, than I'm all for it. I like to call them escorts, because these days, a lot of people doing this type of work, do it on their own terms, and they are better protected. It's not like the old days anymore, where you got a pimp controlling a woman, it's the woman or escort deciding the rules. 

But yeah, if all parties are happy, I see no issues with it. Just don't let it become something that controls you and becomes some sort of addiction for you. Because, sex can become an addiction. I've known people who have it and it can be rough. 

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Vladimir Sikic
@Vladimir.Sikic · Posted 10 Apr. 2021

I love sex working girls and treat them with total respect and act  like a gentleman and always stay within her perogative whether she wants to submit sexually to my desire for pleasure.


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Godwin Oladele   I write content
@Writelord · Posted 06 Apr. 2021

Well. I have to say first, You deserve credit for speaking about your addiction. Not many people can.

I have nothing against sex work. I've been romantically involved with a sex worker. And I can say this much, the lack of female empowerment in our world is the major reason for this. So it is what it is, a business like any other else.

Sex addiction, on the other hand, has little health benefits. Statistically speaking, as a man (and I assume you're one) you lose about 13% of energy per round. In the long run, this doesnt add up to anything other than a shorter life span.

You must overcome it. Why, because you now seek satisfaction from a number of sexual acquaintances. Which must mean that you find it hard to enjoy sex. If this is the case, you have other underlying addictions, which may be chronic masturbation or alcohol abuse.

Now, the other major cause for this is Porn addiction. Porn is bad. It poisons the mind and actually stops you from enjoying sex with a partner.

And if indeed you are addicted to porn, I suggest you search for help. You can get clean through NoFap. You should give it a try. Search for No fap movement on YouTube 

Remember, one sexual partner is all you need. Having multiple partners can lead to depression. It's not too late to find healing  but you must suppress your other addictions.

Stopping porn is the right way to go. NoFap is the healing

I hope this helps


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Debbie Katz  Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 06 Apr. 2021

I don't like sex work of any kind be it street, porn, or stripping but I understand that some men may have a hard time finding a partner and those outlets can be helpful for them. I feel like it is natural to crave sex and desire some form of intimacy with someone else but when it becomes a habit or an addiction, it can be a bad thing especially in the long run. I think in this context, you are questioning whether or not you are addicted and I think it would be best to talk to someone and find out why your desires for sex are so high. Deep down, it can stem from trauma of some kind. You will not find fulfillment sleeping with random women. It may feel great in the moment but when your sex drive dies down, I feel you may regret things. 


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Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 08 Apr. 2021

Well, paying for sex, to a known or anonymous person is not a good thing either way. Your case i would say is psychological. The urge for sex is ok, but when it is exceedingly high or weird in some way, it means you may need some professional counseling. Since continuously doing so can be damaging in the long run. 


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