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How many chances do you give a person?   


Debbie Katz Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 23 Nov. 2021

In terms of breaking trust - lying, cheating, etc. - How many chances do you typically give a person before you cut ties with them for good? This can be for an intimate relationship, friendship, or even chances given to a family member. I am curious where everyone draws their limits at. 


Pritika Thakur
@pritika98 · Posted 23 Nov. 2021

For family, I'd say it depends on the situation, and more often than not, bygones are left as bygones. I try to set boundaries, but they are more of a futile venture because they are never communicated from the other side. I don't think they're as pointless as I think they are because they help me be clear about repeated patterns and cycles, which I am and will be out of eventually. I tend to confront the situation and the person directly, so I feel in the cases of close ones, whether it's friends or family members, I'd prefer to not have the same thing repeated a third time. As I mentioned before, it depends on the context of things too. For partners, if it's cheating, there's no going back from there.


Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 23 Nov. 2021

I will give someone as many chances as possible. Provided s/he doesn't repeat the same mistake. Also, if affects my trust for them, i will wait until when i grow the trust back before i give them another chance. Matters that require trust are not negotiable. You cannot give someone a chance when trusting them is problem in the first place. 


Ryan M
@RyanM · Posted 24 Nov. 2021

Depends on the situation, but I think more often than not, I prefer not to date someone who has cheated on me more than once. If it is a one time thing, I may consider taking a chance on her again, but a second time, and I then know she isn't for me. I can't date someone who uses me like that. To cheat on me with another and then not break up with me first, is just messed up to me. 

If you ever decide to cheat on someone, leave them. It's better that way. I think for many other things, like lying, breaking trust etc, I would be less serious about. But if it's a continued thing, over and over, eventually I may call it off. 


Osheen Sharma
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 24 Nov. 2021

I usually try to see the best in people and try to hold hope for them to change or improve however in certain situations I don't feel the same way. One major example would be that of cheating, I do not tolerate that and have immediately cut ties with people over this in the past. When it comes to friendships I am a bit more forgiving and give people a few chances before distancing myself from them. A lot of my reactions in these situations are internal, I don't often tell people that I'll be distancing myself, I just slowly do it.

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