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How do you say "none of your business" in the politest manner possible?   


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Pritika Thakur
@pritika98 · Updated 15 Dec. 2021

Sometimes I don't feel like sharing some aspects of my life with people in my company, and I don't know how to make it clear to them in a way that doesn't come off as rude or impolite. So, I'd appreciate it if you suggested a way in which I could respond in a respectful manner.


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Godwin Oladele I write content
@Writelord · Posted 16 Dec. 2021

You can start by saying, "I'd rather not to talk about this" 

Obviously, this doesn't work on everyone. Some people are just pricks tbh. If they persist, simply say, "I'm sorry but I'm not really comfortable talking about this kind of thing with other people".

What this does is make the other person self-reflective, and they will stop pestering you.

If all fails, you have a free pass to downright end the conversation with a 'Mind your Business" remark.

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Pritika Thakur
@pritika98 · Posted 16 Dec. 2021

I will be doing that. Thank you for replying!


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Debbie Katz Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 16 Dec. 2021

When I am approached with something like this and it really isn't anyone's business but my own and those I like to make it known to, I will just kindly say it is a personal matter. So if someone approaches me and asked an intimate question about say, my marriage, I will just respond with "That is a personal matter.". If they try to pry, then they will get hit with a very lighthearted "It really isn't anyone else's business but my own.". If they keep going then I will just say flat out they need to mind their own business. 

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Pritika Thakur
@pritika98 · Posted 16 Dec. 2021

I'll keep that in mind. Thank you for responding!


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Avyanna Dream Site Admin
@admin · Updated 20 Dec. 2021

Don’t you hate it when people, especially the sanctimonious pricks just love to stick their noses in one`s business? I usually put on the brakes early on to avoid further encouragement. I for one, hate being around Dr question, especially those that try to get under my skin.

I remember tons of years ago, a coworker whom I just met for the first time asked me what my blood type was without even a hello.  Who asks someone they just met for the first time their blood type 8 am in the morning? I felt an almost frenzied need to ask why but decided against it as it might start a conversation that I wasn’t in the mood for. Instead, I told her F. She looked at me as if hypnotized for a few seconds, then offered an amused smile and said, ` oh, I got it. ` Though we had a healthy and friendly relationship for the duration I was there, she never got to ask me any personal question ever again.

When people ask me my age, I usually tell them (depending on my mood and situation),18,19, or ask them what they think. The response I get is always the same.`wow, you are young.` And my  response is always, `‘Thank you.`` End of story.

If it`s something deeper and personal, I could A,(again depending on my mood and situation), shrug my shoulders and walk away with the air of someone who just remembered something or has an urgent need to get to an important task or appointment, B, reached for my phone  If I have it on me and start talking to an imaginary person and that is my cue to walk politely away leaving them confused and me tremendously relieved and happy to be out of their hair.

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Pritika Thakur
@pritika98 · Updated 20 Dec. 2021

Understandably, I think I have a bit of a hard time setting boundaries as such, and it's admirable how you can do that too, for various contexts as you've mentioned. Definitely keeping these instances in mind. Thank you!


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Avyanna Dream Site Admin
@admin · Posted 20 Dec. 2021

Not at all. I guess you can. There are tons of admirable ways you can put your foot down and tell them to F off without sounding rude or offensive.


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Mathews James
@Mathews · Posted 24 Dec. 2021

`I`m not telling` is the phrase I often use when I don't feel comfortable answering their questions. 

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Pritika Thakur
@pritika98 · Posted 25 Dec. 2021

oh! That's easy. I'll be using that in the future. Thank you for your suggestion!


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Sonal Sonale
@ssonalese · Posted 26 Dec. 2021

Someone once asked me how much I weighed and my response was `I weigh perfect`

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Pritika Thakur
@pritika98 · Posted 26 Dec. 2021

Perfect!


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