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How do you push past the anxiety?   


Ryan M
@RyanM · Posted 12 Apr. 2021

Anxiety can be a terrible aspect about life. It's that little thing that makes stress and depression even worse. Who here has dealt with anxiety in their life? I have my fair share of it, and have tried to get over it more, but it's not always easy. 

How do you push past your anxiety? I had anxiety about talking with people on a phone and in voice chat. It's something I'm working on, and I'm getting better. My anxiety has gone down a lot. I think it really helps to just face it head on. Get into that voice chat if you are scared to talk, because forcing yourself, will sometimes solve the issue, or help it some. 


Depressed Chase Connor Blair
@Depressed Chase Connor.Blair · Posted 15 Apr. 2021

started when I was 5 years I had an imaginary friend Named Zoe fast-forward to 2016 when I was 10 years old I moved out of Lackland AFB To Princeton Texas I meet the most beautifullest Tom Boy who is twins with A blonde there names were Lundyn and Zoe I started to fall in love with Zoe 2018 she started to they became closer the the bottom fall off I got distracted to other girls then they told on Zoe Zoe hate/love I got so angry Things started to go serious in 2018 I was arrested because a kid hack into my social media and for day but I never came back I was scared to go back so my mom set up with a consular name Richard Bush 3 years to Feb 20 2021 I came back However not in a way I was expecting because I wanted to be closer to Zoe and Lundyn Again But This is where things become depressing During science class I told quinten that I'm still dating Zoe But quinten told me she's has a boyfriend even my sister told me she had a boyfriend I didn't believe them I said It was another rumor just be spread it was notWhen I called Lundyn I because Devastated Her boyfriend was on the phone I became Depressed I sat on the couch crying When I went back to school I because jealous outraged and Pretty much A threat to Myself and Lundyn and Zoe And THE HIGH SCHOOL I text to them in a rage manner I TOLD ZOE AND LUNDYN WHY DID YOU DO THAT They ignored me when U tried to ask them and even in fire trill I got so mad that I try to tackle Lundyn but I couldn't I was a lover not a fighter so I went into the bathroom grab my switch charger and try to hurt myself a frightened kid walk into the bathroom and took me to Mrs walling I was sent to the hospital for 30 minutes 2 day later her parents filled a stay away agreement which is a no contact zone so I felt regretful heck I even her voice on the announcements and still feel regretful


Depressed Chase Connor Blair
@Depressed Chase Connor.Blair · Posted 15 Apr. 2021

Lately I need Help to End this pain i have been getting after Zoe push me to the deep end

For now ive been lonely and depressed and regretful


Ryan M
@RyanM · Posted 16 Apr. 2021

I'm sorry to hear you're going through that. Was the last time you saw Zoe in 2018? It may just be that she moved on during that time. I understand you probably don't want to hear that. But sometimes friends and previous relationships move on. There are many fish in the sea. And I know that's a cliche thing to say, but it's true. Because there is always a special someone out there waiting. Maybe Zoe wasn't the one for you. There very well could be someone waiting for you out there. 

Don't let it weigh you down. You're still a kid, be a kid. Hang out with friends, have fun. Don't let love get in the way just yet. There's a lot of time for that. And hey, you'll find someone. Sometimes things don't work out the way you want them to, but that's okay, because you learn from that, and grow from that. 

It's going to hurt a while, but you'll make it through this. Please, speak with a close friend or family member. Trust me, they will be there for you. And never feel ashamed for being depressed. We all go through it, and sometimes it hits you hard. But I sense you're a very strong person and will get through this. As well, consider speaking with your counselor more. Get your feeling out there. Trust me, it helps so much to talk face to face with someone about it. 


Debbie Katz Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Updated 16 Apr. 2021

Being a teenager is hard. I have had moments of great loneliness and feeling like an outcast for many of my teen years. It can be painful but trust me, these feelings do not last. People are so concerned with themselves that they forget things and move on so quickly, especially in the teen years. When you feel a bond with someone, it is hard to ignore it and it can be painful when they don't exchange those feelings with you. The best advice I can give you is to focus on yourself. Don't sit around and allow the thoughts and feelings to consume you. If you have a hobby you enjoy, put more time into that. 

When I was a teenager I cut myself in order to deal with the emotional pain. I never did it with the intent to end my life but as a means to just stop feeling emotional pain by redirecting my mind to physical pain. When I got older, I learned that this was not helpful but actually harmful. I ended up getting horrible anxiety and later panic attacks. I have been struggling with those for many years now. This is because I didn't learn how to properly control my emotions. Don't let your fears, worries, or sadness take over your life. What hurts now will feel like nothing in a few short years. Don't put yourself in a position where you allow your fear to take the wheel. You are young and have your life ahead of you. Find someone you can speak with about everything, it does help. Holding everything in never does. If you don't have anyone, look to God. If you don't believe in God, think of Him as your new imaginary friend and just vent to him every night. It will help you. You have to let your emotions out and keep your mind and heart focused on the positives in your life. 

From a medical standpoint, a lot of what you are feeling is likely down to hormones and these levels going up and down will not last. Your body will balance out and you will feel better with time. Exercise when you can, make sure you get enough sleep and focus on believing in yourself. You need to be able to love yourself before you can allow someone else to love you. I hope you feel better soon. 


Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 16 Apr. 2021

This is quite deep. Sorry about that. My advice to you is to let go of things you can't control. For example, you can do all things to be lovable to someone, but you can never control or make them love you back. Since the ability to make them love you back is not in your control, just stick to making yourself better. 

Don't hurt yourself, you don't know what the future holds for you. There are many other Zoes out there, even prettier, that may love you unconditionally. All you have to do is work on yourself, be the best version of yourself. 

Lastly, don't be afraid to open up to someone you trust, or get professional help from an expert. 


Debbie Katz Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 13 Apr. 2021

I have been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for a good 15 years now and I know how hard it can be. Recently I had struggled with a pretty bad bout I am still coming out of. It makes me physically ill in my stomach, I feel drained, I can't function, and I can't live a "normal life" when anxiety is in control. 

In terms of pushing past it, I do my best to focus on God and my faith. I also focus on the positives of the future. Life is short and I don't want anxiety to keep robbing me of my time here. It can be hard at times so I always remind myself, things will get better again.


Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Updated 16 Apr. 2021

The first step in dealing with anxiety is to establish the root cause of your anxiety. Without establishing the cause, you may end up dealing with the symptoms instead of the main root cause. Secondly, you need to get your mind off that causative agent. 

Here is how i do it: 

1. When i feel anxious, i count to 30. Note that, the longer you count the better. Counting to 10, will not help much, count to 50+ if you feel very anxious. 

2. Take some time off that routine thing or job that you are doing. 

3. Take deep breaths. Breath in and out heavily like 10 times. 

4. Repeat: You can do it. Make it your mantra anytime you get anxiety attacks or when you fear doing something. It will help you calm down and believe in yourself.


Godwin Oladele I write content
@Writelord · Updated 16 Apr. 2021

Okay, so I contributed an article for Modern Man Advice on the issue of anxiety. A must-read.

Here is the summary:

Anxiety is a feeling like any other. Just as we try daily to manage our fears, hopes, anger, etc; the same should be done with anxiety.

Everyone feels anxiety. The problem is letting it overpower your mind.

The major reason we feel anxious is because our mind is trying to draw our attention to certain things in our lives. Things that are important and necessary for our growth and development. 

Therefore, we must understand why we feel anxious. We must understand what our mind tries so hard to tell us. And then we must embrace these thoughts, reconcile the differences and set our minds free.

Again, anxiety is just an emotion. It is important. You must learn to control it like every other emotion. This is the only way.

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