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How can I tell if its real love or just infatuation?   

#Love or infatuation #true love #infatuation


Anne Leagh
@Anne.Leagh · Updated 23 Sep. 2020


Joe Waiganjo
@Techy.Rack · Posted 24 Sep. 2020

It can be confusing to understand the difference between infatuation and love, as many relationships begin with a generous sprinkling of infatuation. In healthy relationships, however, the fiery initial phase of infatuation is fleeting, soon giving way to a true partnership based on genuine trust and respect instead of an obsessive attachment to the other person. When relationships cool-off from infatuation, it doesn’t mean that couples care about each other less, it just means the relationship has evolved (and will continue to evolve) to a more sustainable, mutual bond. When infatuation is fueled by insecurity, the relationship either ends as quickly as it starts, or drags on as the infatuation morphs into a harmful addiction to the other person.


Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 24 Sep. 2020

You don't. You just need to get in and use your head to make an informed decision based on how the other partner is treating the entire union. 

The both of you can be deeply in love with each other, but along the way, things happen. Then it turns out to have been infatuation. The opposite is true too. You may read the wrong signal and consider your partner to be "not in for it". Only to find that you made your decision too early into the relationship. 

So, i prefer making the final decision on whether it is love or infatuation by making more inferences and collecting more information from our day to day interaction. Intimacy issues can be confusing at times. The heart will play tricks with your brain, and vice versa. Never ignore any of the two. 


Ryan M
@RyanM · Posted 25 Sep. 2020

It's really tough to say, because often times, I've been in what I thought was 'love', but often times, it's more of a crush, and attraction. I think you know for sure when you love someone, but in order to tell if someone else loves you as much, it really comes down to how they treat you. If you're dating someone who's there for you, respects you, keeps in contact with you often, waits on you, etc. Well that could very well be love. 

Basically, to me, love is someone who will jump in front of a bullet for you, someone who takes care of you when sick or in need, someone who listens to your feelings, and so much more. 


Sarfraz Ali
@Sarfraz.Ali · Posted 23 Sep. 2020

The difference between love and happiness is that inflation can be great, in fact it can cause a lot of obsession with an individual. Clearly, you will only fully develop love when you begin to have a clear idea of what this person is willing to offer you. This means that recognizing and acknowledging their shortcomings can make your life happier, rather than looking like innocent people. Love is usually non-economic, but once it becomes a reality, knowing someone is permanently valid.


Yuri R
@yurir · Posted 24 Sep. 2020

Do you think you could gain the same level of happiness with someone else? If so then it's probably just infatuation and not real love. Real love is knowing no one else would do


Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 26 Sep. 2020

Well said @yurir The line between infatuation and love seems to be very thin. Plus the blindness that seems to engulf lovers - especially new ones - will prevent one from seeing things from a different perspective. 

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