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Has the lack of structure in modern romance pushed people towards alternative forms of intimacy?   

#Love #Relationships


Osheen Sharma
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 13 Oct. 2021

I have noticed that most people now set more concrete ground rules and conditions for their unlabelled relationships in lieu of getting into conventional romantic couples. It is excellent that we are more conscious of how to proceed with our relationships and that people are more confident about voicing their needs and limits. It has, however, made me realize that a lot of these people, myself included, don't want anything outlandish or new. We all want to be treated with respect and expect the bare minimum more often than not.

I wonder if the lack of structure, and might I say, loyalty in conventional romance, might be the reason for this. People match up based on what they want; this could be a polyamorous relationship, a BDSM-based relationship, just a casual dating thing, or whatever else they want. The basic needs are usually the same as what one would expect from an ideal committed relationship. Could this be because there is less of a chance of being blindsided in this case? Have we taken this approach partly because most people don't hold up the integrity of established relationships, and this adaptation leaves less room for us to be hurt?


Debbie Katz Free Spirit
@debkatz78 · Posted 15 Oct. 2021

I feel like the appeal and "idea" of romance established in movies, TV shows, etc. seldom touches on reality. The reality being that romantic love (lust) never lasts. People may be more aware of this today and are focusing on fulfilling their needs in different ways. I think once someone decides they want a family, their outlook and dating routines will change but in this day and age, it comes along with age. That is something else to consider. People are less inclined to get married young and start a family. Most people are seeking this in their 30s or even 40s these days whereas the norm was before the age of 30. It makes sense for financial reasons and career reasons to marry in your late 20s and have children when you are more financially stable in your 30s. Prior to this people can spend their time exploring sexuality and self-pleasure and I think they often do. They seek out short-term companionship. 


Osheen Sharma
@Osheen.Sharma · Posted 15 Oct. 2021

You seem to have hit the nail right on the head. I completely agree with your answer. Thank you!


Bomb . Carpe Diem...
@bomb · Posted 17 Oct. 2021

Not really. Although there is some element of people not willing to invest in relationships nowadays. I would say that things are changing fast, and people don't seem to care much about staying in healthy relationships. Many shun away from attachment, or being pinned down to one spouse. This I see as the reason why people are opting for alternative ways. 

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