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@znuj99 · Updated 23 Sep. 2020
I’m 26 and my girlfriend is 20. She wants us to get married. I’m holding back thinking is too early, but it makes her sad. What do you guys think?
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@Writelord · Updated 23 Sep. 2020
Well, Junlyn, this isn't a decision we can make for you.
Although there are a lot of things to consider before getting married, it all boils down to one question:
'Are you ready for the responsibility?'
Because marriage is a lifetime commitment. If you feel its too early, then it's definitely too early. Don't feel pressured; you're still very young. Live your life one step at a time and watch carefully as your plans unfold.
When the right time comes, you wouldn't need to ask us what we think, because our opinions wouldn't matter.
When the right time comes, you'll know it in your heart, mind, body, soul and spirit.
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@bomb · Updated 23 Sep. 2020
For marriage, like many other life events, there is never a "right time". Ok sure, there is wrong time, that is below 17!! I guess!
This is an individual preference as @Writelord rightly puts it. I will quote Søren Kierkegaard, who said:“Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it"So you just have to make that decision on your own, based on what you consider "your minimum requirements" for getting married.
@RyanM · Updated 24 Sep. 2020
Have you told her how you feel? Sometimes getting your feelings out there helps a ton. Marriage is a serious decision to make. Do you love her? Do you see yourself with her for the rest of your life?
It really comes down to how you feel. If you're not ready for marriage, let her know how you feel. Being honest with her is key. Let her know why you think it's too early. Maybe get engaged like Sarfraz said above.
You're young, and so is she. Give it some time. Let her know your feelings and see where it goes. You'll know when the time is ready I bet.
@yurir · Updated 25 Sep. 2020
This is ideally something you should be able to answer yourself. A lot of people have their own benchmarks for what they consider to be "ready". Look inwards and ask yourself what you want from life and what makes you happy
@Muneeb.Zafar · Posted 25 Sep. 2020
Marriage can be a huge commitment. If he is able to get married, if I am able to get married, I can't believe it. However, I got married anyway, which made me very confident about the girl I was going to marry. I was convinced that this would be the case if I ever got married.
@Sarfraz.Ali · Updated 24 Sep. 2020
I think you should get engaged before marriage which will give you time to understand each other well.