What Do I Do When I Feel Like Giving Up?
So much can weigh a good person down. Things can get on top of us. The old saying goes that bad things happen in threes and I have found myself after being dealt two harsh blows, looking for that third catastrophe to make an appearance.
So much can weigh a good person down. Things can get on top of us. The old saying goes that bad things happen in threes and I have found myself after being dealt two harsh blows, looking for that third catastrophe to make an appearance. Not only that, I was resigned to the inevitability of receiving yet another cruel blow.
It doesn’t matter how your adversity arises, at some time in our lives most of us have experienced that feeling of hopelessness when we just felt like giving up. Despite all my efforts, I found nothing I did could improve my situation, I had no one to turn to for help, and everywhere I looked there was an unsurmountable brick wall holding me back.
In dark times, when we feel such despair, it is time to dig deep. We are more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. In desperate times we can rally our own fortitude and soldier on. To overcome difficult or hopeless situations, I learned that there are steps you can take and changes you can make to your outlook on life. Here are some action processes I recommend, for anyone to take on board:
indulge in positive thoughts
envisage a successful outcome
picture yourself enjoying a brighter future
ask for help
talk through your situation with a sympathetic person
write down some remedying courses of action
take a firm stance and bold action to get results
follow through and make it happen
Sure, it sounds like well-worn rhetoric, but I found that thinking positive thoughts is actually a powerful tool. Just believing you can improve your situation, really believing it, is a great step forward. Try envisaging a brighter future or a successful outcome to your problem, and you are already halfway there. Shuffling off the heavy burden of those hopeless feelings and negative attitude frees you up to embrace better possibilities.
Along with the new, energized vibes of your more positive state of mind, there needs to be some positive action to make it all happen. Another wise old saying goes that your situation in life is either determined by you letting things happen to you or conversely, you make things happen for you.
So, I took steps to build a better future. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone about your problems. I got immense relief from letting it all out, in unburdening myself, by discussing my situation with sympathetic people. You may be amazed by the good feelings it stimulates. Not only that, other people can take stock of your situation and make suggestions you had never thought of, that could just give you a positive new direction to pursue. And never underestimate the power of an outsider’s viewpoint. Someone detached from your situation could come up with very sound solutions that your over-emotional state had never considered.
Next, you need to take action. Follow through with a plan and make it happen. This is how I got started. I sat down with pen and paper and drew a line down the middle of the page. On the left side, I listed each one of the barriers or hurdles that were holding me back and made me feel like giving up. On the right-hand side, I start listing all the answers and solutions to overcome each of those listed problems, and I found it very liberating.
Start jotting down some positive courses of action for you to follow, that will methodically abolish each of your problems. Step by step. Then just do it.