How to suppress your fantasy revenge and heal in the most graceful way.

We’ve all felt that way at some time in our lives. We truly believe that we were wronged, and we ached to set things straight, to get back at the person who did the wrong thing by us.

How to suppress your fantasy revenge and heal in the most graceful way.

We’ve all felt that way at some time in our lives. We truly believe that we were wronged, and we ached to set things straight, to get back at the person who did the wrong thing by us.

It may have happened in our personal life. Someone we know and care about has caused us harm or offended us to the core. The disappointment we felt at being the target of the sharp tongue or nasty deeds from someone close to us can be crushing.

Even more upsetting can be the slights or back-stabbing we may have received at work. The office can be a jungle and some people will stop at nothing to trample over the heads of others to get ahead. Perhaps a chain of events led to a bad outcome on a project, and someone was happy to throw you under the bus to avoid the blame. Or maybe a colleague said something personally hurtful that was better off left unsaid.

Although we may have been silent during the event, afterward we played it back in our mind time and time again, thinking of fabulous sharp retorts we could have said, or coming up with a valid explanation that absolved us from the blame that was unfairly heaped upon us.

How we wish we could have done it all again and this time, we spoke up and fought back. Then there’s that delicious fantasy revenge scenario. We conjure up devious and dastardly plans to cause harm or embarrassment to our oppressor/s, to make them see what it feels like, To even the score. That would teach them! There is the redress, the satisfying closure we are seeking.

Or not.

Wouldn’t the better way be to rise above the nastiness of past events and the shallow, self-seeking people who did you harm? Let them be the small-minded, mean-hearted individuals while you embrace kindness and seek the path of justice and fairness. In short, you could be the better person, the gracious, generous human being to everyone, equally.

A generous, kind-hearted individual should seek to spread positive feelings to all who come in contact with them. Smile with genuine friendship when dealing with your former oppressors, your former opponent. Ask about how they are going, as if you really care. Show them with your sunny outlook and happy demeanor that their meanness doesn’t drag you down to their level.

Sure, they will be confused. Their combative nature expects to be met with reprisals and anger. They are expecting finger-pointing and tit for tat slanging. When they realize that you just don't care about their nasty behavior and you are not going to stoop to their ugly tactics, they will first feel cheap and mean, and then realize that there is another way to deal with other people. It is even possible they might take stock of their own behavior and mend their wicked behavior.

Meanwhile, as you sail on ahead unphased by them, you effectively trample over mean deeds and unkindness, embracing positive energies and happiness, that can only serve you well in your future career and your personal life. That makes you a winner.

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