How to Strengthen Commitment in a Relationship or Marriage.

You and Them Against the World Outside influences in your marriage or relationship can devastate the bond the two of you share. Often, couples turn to friends or family members for advice about their marriage. Provided you have a truly supportive family member or friend, this can be a benefit, but not everyone has your best interest at heart. Some family members or friends may be jealous of your relationship and attempt to undermine the other person with negativity at every turn. Do not let it happen.

How to Strengthen Commitment in a Relationship or Marriage.

Love is amazing. It can make us feel elated at times, but sometimes, after a relationship has been established for a while, you can begin to wonder, if it is really all worth it. Commitment is a very difficult thing to contend with and when you are in a committed relationship or marriage, stepping out of the relationship will eventually come to your mind. However, affairs and even seemingly harmless flirting can lead to problems with commitment within your relationship. If you have been struggling with commitment, struggle no more with these amazing tips.

Emphasize the Positive

Throughout your relationship, there have been fights, disagreements, and likely screaming matches that have allowed the two of you to express yourselves and be real. These are uncomfortable attributes of a relationship, but they can be overcome by positivity. There is considerable power in positivity and focusing on the positive aspects of your marriage is the key to strengthening your commitment. Remember jokes the two of you have shared or positive times in your relationship. Emphasize that and remind your partner of those times. When a negative thought comes around, squash it with a positive one. There is always something positive to be found within all the negative.

End Arguments (in a Humorous Fashion)

The above heading may not make sense to everyone but stick with me just for a moment.

When my wife and I were first married, maybe 4 months into the marriage, we had our first fight. We yelled, screamed, and got it all out into the open. When I found myself about to lose it, I stopped and opened the front door as if to leave the house. “Where are you going?” she hissed. “I’m going to get you a Pepsi!” were the words that came out of my mouth and I promptly slammed the door, got in the car, and proceeded to the store.

Upon returning, she laughed at me for that, but it ended the argument in a humorous manner. To this day I cannot remember what we were fighting about, just the end and it was funny. All arguments may not be able to end like this one, but you will find that with a little calculated humor, you will have more good memories than bad ones and you will not remember what you were initially fighting about.

You and Them Against the World

Outside influences in your marriage or relationship can devastate the bond the two of you share. Often, couples turn to friends or family members for advice about their marriage. Provided you have a truly supportive family member or friend, this can be a benefit, but not everyone has your best interest at heart. Some family members or friends may be jealous of your relationship and attempt to undermine the other person with negativity at every turn. Do not let it happen.

It is fine to have friends and family surrounding you for support, but in your relationship, you need to have an, “Us against the world,” mentality. Ensure that you are all in and that your partner feels the same way. Be there for your partner at every turn and never back away from them. Issues will arise, but you two have to make a commitment to be there for one another through thick and thin. This is how trust is ultimately built in a strong relationship.

Eliminate Possible Distractions

Distractions can come in many forms. People, games, drinking, going out with friends, and other aspects of life have the potential to distract us from our partner’s needs. They need us to be around wholeheartedly and distractions have the potential to take away our valued attention. This is not to say, you can never go out with friends, but that limiting outings of our own needs and reducing possible distractions from our partner will only strengthen the bond.

Look at The Other Person’s Perspective

This is a difficult thing to do especially in a relationship. Routines get established and we tend to become spoiled by our partners and what they do for us. However, you need to look deeper into why they do those things for you. Is it because they love you unconditionally, or is it because they know if they do not do it, they will have to hear negativity? Attempt to understand your partner and why they do what they do. Taking time out to look at life from your partner’s perspective will help you understand them more deeply than ever before and give you the opportunity to improve upon things you can do to help them.

Relationships take commitment and strengthening that commitment can be remarkably difficult. Remember, it takes both parties working together to make the relationship stronger and when both are willing to try, you can see amazing positive results in any relationship.

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