How to Outsmart Imposter Syndrome.
Imposter syndrome happens when someone believes their success is fraudulent and that at any point, they will be found out and lose everything. It sounds odd to some, but imposter syndrome is more common than one might think.
Everyone wants to be successful in some capacity. For some, success is measured in monetary value while others use the measurement of true happiness as a means of success, but no matter what you measure success by, it is possible to believe your success is ill-gotten. Such notions are generally called Imposter Syndrome. Imposter syndrome happens when someone believes their success is fraudulent and that at any point, they will be found out and lose everything. It sounds odd to some, but imposter syndrome is more common than one might think. Approximately 70% of individuals are affected, at least on some level, have been affected by imposter syndrome, and if this condition plagues you, here are a few ways you can outsmart it and truly enjoy your success.
Reprogram Your Thought Process
Your individual journey has led you to where you are today. All of your accomplishments, as well as failures, are important. You as a human are a cog in the vast world we live in and without you, something important would be missing. Realizing that you are an individual and a valid part of the human race is vital to your overall success. Imposter syndrome leads you to invalidate certain successes and discount them as irrelevant or something anyone could have done. It is time that you reprogram your mind to realize your greatness. Although everyone has their own valuable attributes, you are the only one that could have accomplished all that you have. Tell yourself you are good enough and even consider carrying around photos of where you come from to remind yourself of your journey that has led to your overall success.
Learn to Own Your Accomplishments
It seems easy to give praise to others. You see someone in a store and compliment them on their attire or even the chosen hairstyle. However, when the tables are turned and we receive compliments, it can be difficult to allow yourself to own your accomplishments. It is important for yourself that you allow others to provide you with compliments as well. Take them as they come. Remember, you are not begging for adoration, but merely acknowledging that another person values something about you. It is ok to accept those compliments without remorse.
Ask a Colleague for Help
Validation is difficult to bring about on one’s own. It often takes validation from someone you admire or respect in order for your success to truly feel like your own. Consider asking a colleague or a friend their opinion. Allow yourself to ask for help and take the other person’s advice into consideration. Often, you will find validation for your accomplishments, but also, do not take criticism badly. Look at the person as trying to improve your skills rather than trying to tear you down. If you trust and admire that person, it should not be too difficult to take constructive criticism from them.
Comparisons are Killers
Take a trip back 30 or 40 years ago. Even if you are not old enough to remember, signs of the past are all around us. Talk to your parents and they will tell you of a time when social media and the internet were not even a reality. Additionally, if you look back to that time, there were far fewer people diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. Although the internet and social media have done a lot to boost our economy and help humanity, they have also done a lot to tear us down as a human race. Times have certainly changed and instead of relying on a sense of community among neighbors and friends, as we once did, more people are getting lost in a world of scrolling through social media and making comparisons based on what they see.
Remember, social media and interactions on the internet are not bad, but should be taken on carefully. What you see on a person’s social media account is what they want you to see. It does not include past failed relationships or jobs they may have been fired from. Social media only shows a skeleton of what that person is all about. Comparing your life and accomplishments based on what you see on social media sites is completely invalid and should not be taken to heart. You have not been on the same journey as that person, but your accomplishments are still important. Trust me, someone, somewhere, is looking at your profile and comparing their life to yours too. We would all do a lot better in life if we simply took our accomplishments as our own and stayed away from comparisons.
Imposter syndrome is something that affects most people. They feel as though they do not deserve what they have accomplished and once everyone finds out about them, everything will vanish. It is simply not true. If you have accomplished something and found success or even if you are still striving to achieve your success, it is all-important and valid. Own it. It’s yours and your journey needs no comparison.