How to Move on and Completely Get Over a Bad Relationship
Our world is full of beauty, but also heartbreak, and what that heartbreak finds its way into our lives, it is our duty to find a way to move past it and become better for it. However, that is often easier said than done. If you find yourself unable to move on, try these tips to help you cope and find your future in love and life
In an ideal world, we would all find that special someone early in our lives and spend our entire earthly existence in pure, blissful love. Unfortunately, we do not live in an ideal world. Our world is full of beauty, but also heartbreak, and what that heartbreak finds its way into our lives, it is our duty to find a way to move past it and become better for it. However, that is often easier said than done. If you find yourself unable to move on, try these tips to help you cope and find your future in love and life.
Focus on You
When you are in a relationship, you are ultimately devoted to that other person. In a great relationship, the love feeds off each other to empower each person, but in a bad relationship, the love is often one-sided leading one party to completely discount their needs and only focus on the other person. Once the relationship dissolves, it is not the time to wallow in self-pity, but take back your humanity.
Go after something that you like, but have yet to do simply because of the devotion to that relationship. Pamper yourself a little. Go to a spa and have a full body treatment or take a trip with close friends. Some find it invigorating to have an adventure completely alone and only do what you, yourself enjoy without any outside influence whatsoever. Work on yourself during this time and find what makes you happy.
Find the Positives
One of the easiest emotions to have after a relationship is anger. You devoted a certain amount of time to that person and failed, but it is through our own personal failures that we can ultimately achieve success. Now is not the time to seek out a new relationship, but it can be the time to figure out what initially attracted you to the relationship in the first place and look back on when it had begun to fall apart. There are signs, and even though looking back can seem a little counterproductive, it is actually a good way to focus on what was good and what may not have been so great. Look at the positives about it and use the good to allow you to move on to a better relationship in the future.
Cut Some Ties
Being in a relationship with one person often means being in a relationship with their entire family or friend group. These bonds should not always be broken, especially when the relationship ended amicably. However, if any person is trying to put the two of you back together or does not want to accept that the relationship has ended, you might want to cut ties and distance yourself from them. It does not mean you have to cut everyone who ever knew about you two out of your life, but simply remove those who try to hold you back while you are attempting to move forward.
Redecorate Your Living Space
It is important to look at the end of a relationship as the beginning of a new adventure. It is likely that you spent a lot of time at your home with your partner and certain areas, decor, accessories, and furniture can hold memories. To help you move past the relationship, remove items that remind you of that person. Not only can you take this time to clear out clutter, but devote time to redecorating your space to embrace the new you ready for new challenges.
Forgive Yourself and the Other Person
Forgiving someone that has wronged you is not our first instinct as humans. What we often want to do is simply watch the other person suffer, especially if the breakup involved any level of infidelity. However, more comfort can be found in forgiveness than revenge. Finding a way to forgive allows you to keep your heart open and can help ward off depression. If you were wronged in the relationship, realize that the other person is still human and all humans make mistakes. Accepting that reality can help you look to the future with more of a positive light and look at your ex as merely a stepping stone for what love has to offer you. Remember, every path is different and some people have more stepping stones to walk over before getting to their final destination of true, devoted love.
Love is not an exact science. There is no right or wrong way to find your person. Ultimately, you will get your heart broke during the process, but heartbreak can lead to a breakthrough at any moment. One day you can be at the end of a bad relationship, but just beyond the horizon of your life, is waiting for that one person to turn it all around. Keep moving forward, focus on yourself, and enjoy what was without only focusing on the negative. You will make it through this!